"That's fair," Ben agrees. "But I had no idea where you went. We didn't bother to discuss what we do if someone caught us. Or back up plans. That's partly on me. I'm used to that sort of thing by now and should have brought it up." But he hadn't been a leader, unaccustomed to worrying above those issues.

Calmer, Ben mutters, "Me, too. But mine feel like they're less under control and something I just put up with that help once in a while."